I think that every blog should have a post like this because you can learn so much about a person and their life by simply reading lessons they have learned through their experiences. After reading Benny Hsu’s post on his 34 Life Lessons, it really inspired me. To read his go check out his website called Get Busy Living.
Life is such a crazy thing! It’s so fulfilling but for some, if you don’t learn lessons and you’re just living to get by it’s pretty boring. Find out some of the lessons I’ve learned that I’ve made note of as I’ve been paying attention more.
27 Lessons I’ve Learned in 27 Years of Life
27. Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
I used to be super high strung. I have learned that I need to just go with the flow and take things for what they are: silly small stuff.
26. Act Like a Kid
I believe that acting like a child and goofing off makes you feel better. It is also shown to make you happier.
25. Step Outside Of Your Comfort Zone
When you take a step outside of your comfort zone, you are doing something you haven’t done before and I bet once you have done it, it makes you feel more accomplished, so step out sometimes.
24. I Don’t Need To Be Right To Be Happy
Boy, this one is constantly a work in progress for me. As I have grown, I have learned that I do not need to always have the last word, I don’t need to prove the other person wrong. I am learning that it is pointless to fight with someone because I need to be right, I would rather let it go, let them think they were right and move on. Life is too short to fight over the little things.
23. You Are Not Entitled To Anything
I remember feeling that because I was brought in to this world that I was entitled to things. Then I started working chat for a wireless company and realize that so many people feel like they entitled to things. Guess what? You came from dust and to dust you will return. You are not entitled to a discount just because you are a breathing living human being. Neither am I. Earn what you want, don’t just take it because you feel like you deserve it when you really don’t.
22. I Regret The Things I Didn’t Do
It amazes me still that so many people are afraid to do something, but have so many passions or dreams. When you are 60, you are going to think about those things you wanted to accomplish and regret it. Try 1 thing that you have wanted to do each year and see how it makes you feel. I bet it will be great stories for your friends, family and/or kids.
21. Laugh, just laugh
Life is way too short not to laugh. Some of my favorite moments have just been with my kids and watching my son act goofy that he is making us laugh so hard we are crying. Others have just been with me Chad and a couple of our friends just talking and laughing. One night we got so drunk the boys went out to McDonald’s and I could not pronounce pickle for the life of me, I kept saying, “Please get me a hamburger no picky.” When they go to the drive through, Mikie and Chad swore the lady asked if they wanted cole slaw…. yes, cole slaw at McDonald’s… that’s what made it funny. I guess you had to be there . But we were toppled over laughing until 4am from those silly conversations. Those are moments I will never forget.
20. Cry, Let It All Out
I used to be such a hard ass. Seriously, Chad said I had no heart and then something clicked within me when I had kids and now I am the biggest baby ever. Sometimes it just feels good to let out those sobs, especially when watching sappy movies, so let it out. You’ll feel better afterward. I promise.
19. Money Isn’t the Root of All Evil
I do not believe that money makes you an evil person. Money is needed in this time to make the world go around. I believe if you use it to help yourself and to help others you are on the right track, but I don’t believe its evil, unless you use it for evil.
18. Money Doesn’t Buy Happiness
Money doesn’t make you happy. There are people with millions of dollars and they are alone. I know you need it for basic things and for those fun extras, but remember it does not make your life. Whether you live in a big house or a small apartment, its the quality of time you spending with your family and how feel about yourself that makes your life complete.
17. Don’t Take Things For Granted
Some of my favorite moments were hanging out with grandma before she died. What I would give to have her here again so she could see how I turned out. I might not be perfect, but I am a good mom and I love my kids and my family more than life itself. Spend that extra moment with your loved ones. Hell, my mom gets on my nerves, but I make sure she knows I love her.
16. Say No
Sometimes we get so caught with wanting to help others and please others that we forget to please ourselves. Sometimes saying no is a good thing because it allows you to do things you want or just not do anything at all. If you say no to someone who is truly a friend, they would understand and be okay with it. If they don’t understand, than that tells you what kind of person that person is.
Smiling is contagious and that smile could make a person’s day. You never know who is going through something and just needs some small wonderful gesture such as a smile to lift them back up.
14. You Can Do Anything
Before I was a mom, before I believed in myself, I was the realistic person, the negative Nancy who just needed to burst everyone’s bubble. I have changed so dramatically since being that person and I believe if you want to do something, do it. If you say you can’t, then you can’t. But if you truly believe in yourself and what you want to do, what does Nike say? JUST DO IT
Which leads me in to my next one….
13. There Will Never Be A Perfect Time
Chad wants to start his own T-Shirt company. We already bought his website, he has already created so many different designs, but he is waiting for that perfect time. With kids, looking for houses, me in school and working from home, there will never be a perfect time. It has such low start up costs that it wouldn’t even affect us but he is afraid to take that step. There is never going to be a superb time to start something, you have to take that leap of faith in yourself and just do it. You can do it, I believe in you. The question is, do you?
12. Hang Out With People Who Inspire You
I used to hang out with people who would just bring me down. After reevaluating what I want from life, I have cut back a lot of friends and people that I associate with because they don’t inspire me and my relationship with them drains me. I don’t want my kids to foster those types of relationships and I want to show them to look for people that inspire you, look for someone you can do a meeting of the minds with and bounce amazing ideas off of each other with. When I read a book or talk to someone, I want to laugh and think, “Wow, I really enjoy this person in my life.” That has meant letting some debbie downers go, but Chad has noticed a huge difference in my attitude. I have noticed a huge difference in my thoughts and I will make sure my kids get inspired by me and they inspire me to be better. I want them to foster those kind of relationships with their friends as they get older too.
11. Find Your Passion
Life is too short to work a 9-5 because that is what you are told to do. Find your passion, find what you love and do it. If you believe in yourself you can do anything you put your mind to. I believe you could, if you believe you can. Start today.
10. Give Yourself
I believe that we truly are happiest when we are helping other people and sharing our knowledge, time and money. Once I start making enough income from this website and my Visalus stuff, I will be able to volunteer an afternoon of my time to help those a local homeless shelter. I feel its so important to give back to people who are less fortunate than me. And it makes me feel good helping other people too. I’m sure you would feel the same way.
9. You Will Fail, But Get Back Up
I know that I am going to have trials and errors in my life, but my character isn’t defined by those failures. I believe my character is defined by the fact that I recognized what didn’t work, but I am willing to go right back at it. You can do the same.
8. Eat Healthier and Exercise
Now, let me say this. I am not a freak about what you eat, I believe if you eat things in moderation that you are okay. However, I do believe that eating healthy and exercising will help you to be healthier and will work for you in the long run for when you get older. Take care of your mind, but your body is very important to.
7. Take a lot of pictures and write things down
I love documenting my life and taking pictures of my family or what food I’m eating because when my kids get older, they will see what their life was like. I don’t think a memory could do justice for the totem pole that was put on my porch in college. Yes, a totem pole . And blackmail for the kids, here I come. Cam dancing in his whitey tidy’s to I’m Sexy and I Know It is going to be great when he has first girlfriend.
6. Forgive Yourself And Forgive Others
This is the biggest one for me and I will admit, I hold grudges. I can still remember the lack of Valentine’s day gift I got last year from Chad and that when I was 4, I didn’t get the Barbie convertible that I could sit in and ride. Seriously? I need to forgive him (Hey, I’m a woman and I could bring it up at the drop of a dime) and my parents, as silly as those things sound. At the time, I felt like I wasn’t being loved, but I realized every other little thing my parents did for me and what Chad does for me is out of love. So I forgive them and I forgive myself for my perception of this entitlement type thinking.
I forgive myself for not accomplishing what I wanted to faster in life. I can’t redo the past, but I am working on it now. So instead of looking back, forgive and move on.
5. Cut Back On TV
I am a TV-aholic and one of my New Year Intentions is to watch less. So far, I have cut back 3 shows this year, which is a huge deal for me. Honestly, now that I have cut back on TV, I am more focused with my business and creating a happy and healthy environment for my family and our life. It amazes me what cutting back on a few hours each week can do for helping build your business.
4. If You Don’t Believe In Yourself, How Can I?
This is semi part of 3, but I thought it is important to have it separate because so many people do not believe in themselves. I can’t make you believe that you can be what you want. I can tell you that you are awesome until I’m blue in the face, but that won’t make you believe or act unless you truly believe that you are awesome.
3. Change Your Mind, Change Your Life
I have learned that the more positive and optimistic I am, the more happy the people around me are. I believe that when you honestly believe you will be successful and you tell yourself those affirmations, that you end being successful. I am in the process of that right now. I love Visalus, which is a direct sales company I work for and I love creating this website. I have found so many amazing resources and people by just believing in myself. They have shown me how to utilize online marketing and affiliate marketing to start being successful.
2. You Have to Be Accountable for Your Life
This is one of the biggest things I have learned in the past few years of my life. It is so important that you do not blame anyone else or the past for what has happened to you. I didn’t have a childhood that was all unicorns and glow worms, but I am using that to create a better future for my kids. Create an affirmation so you understand you are taking control of your life and you are being accountable for what you go through. You gained 5 pounds this week? Maybe you should have put the twinkie down. You networked with 5 people this week? You want to succeed because you are doing what it takes and you know you are responsible for that.
1. Just Be You
In previous relationships and friendships, I would change who I am to please that person and that is no way to live. With my kids, I lost myself in the beginning because I was too busy being mom to remember who I was. I took a step back, took some time for me and I really looked at me and now, I am who I am. I will not change to please other people, but I will continue to evolve in to who I am.
Please share me with some lessons you have learned over your years.